Twelfth Step Ministry

Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous, or S.L.A.A., is a program for anyone who suffers from an addictive compulsion to engage in or avoid sex, love, or emotional attachment.  We use the Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions adapted from Alcoholics Anonymous to recover from these compulsions.   The following behaviors have been experienced by members.

• Having few healthy boundaries, we become sexually involved with and/or emotionally attached to people without knowing them.
• Fearing abandonment and loneliness , we stay in and return to painful, destructive relationships….
• We confuse love with neediness, physical and sexual attraction, pity and/or the need to rescue or be rescued.
• We sexualize stress, guilt, loneliness, anger, shame, fear and envy.….
• To avoid feeling vulnerable, we may retreat from all intimate involvement,…Excerpts from the Twelve Characteristics of Sex and Love Addiction ©1985

You may be experiencing one or all of these characteristics, but only you can decide for sure if S.L.A.A. is right for you.   To help you make this decision, it is suggested that you complete the 40 Questions for Self-Diagnosis.  If you answer yes to any combination of these questions and think you may be struggling with sex and love addiction, you are welcome in S.L.A.A.

MEETING IS CLOSED AND OPEN TO ONLY THOSE SEEKING HELP WITH THEIR ADDICTION

As a fellowship of recovering addicts, Sex Addicts Anonymous offers a message of hope to anyone who suffers from sex addiction.

Through long and painful experience, we came to realize that we were powerless over our sexual thoughts and behaviors and that our preoccupation with sex was causing progressively severe adverse consequences for us, our families, and our friends. Despite many failed promises to ourselves and attempts to change, we discovered that we were unable to stop acting out sexually by ourselves.

Many of us came to this realization when we started attending SAA meetings. In that setting we heard stories similar to ours and realized that recovery from our problem was possible. We learned through the SAA Fellowship that we were not hopelessly defective.

The basic principles of recovery practiced by SAA are found in the Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions of Alcoholics Anonymous. Although we are not affiliated with AA or with any other organization or agency, we are, indeed, grateful for permission to modify and apply the Steps and Traditions to sex addiction, making recovery possible for us.

Although sex addicts may act out sexually in many different ways, there are common elements that seem to characterize our addiction: